Do you Believe?

I've been asked why my husband and I go all out for Christmas when we don't have children...why wouldn't we?? Life doesn't end because we don't have children..Christmas still comes every year.

The fact is, we enjoy Christmas..not the commercialism but the magic..which I believe is a state of mind..We decorate our house inside and out...top to bottom, we bake cookies, get in our pj's and go look at the lights around the neighborhood..all the things you all do with your kids...the season isn't any less magical because we don't have little ones in our house.

The assumption that we hate this holiday or that this holiday is hard for us..is just that..an assumption..the fact is, there is no great time of year..or time of year that's easier..it's hard all the time really, but we choose to live our lives and not let this define us or wallow in self pity.

We've had our share of sadness on Christmas..my Father in Law died on Christmas morning 16 years ago after a long battle with cancer..I never thought that my husband would ever enjoy the holidays after that..but life went on and I think he loves this time of year more than I do.

For us, in our home..Santa exists...magic exists..children or no children.

Wishing you all a very Merry Christmas and a Happy and Healthy 2014!!

I'd Like Some More Please..

It's sad to me that people complain more than they are grateful..for everything...I truly don't think the average person realizes how lucky they are..not with just being able to have children, but to have a roof over their head, to have food on the table..heat/ac...things that are taken for granted every single day. There is always a complaint about something.

You see these people post on Social Media about how perfect their life is, how great their kids are, etc., but honestly if you look back you see alot of blessings in their lives taken for granted...my husband is a jerk, my kids are driving me crazy, I want a bigger car, house, another baby to complete me....why do we always want more...why can't we just be satisfied with what we have and be thankful?

In the grand scheme of things..as much as I feel cheated in life by not being able to have children..I'm also very thankful for what I do have. People ask me what I want for Christmas..I don't want or need anything..I have everything I need and if I don't, I can go get it..there are people that have nothing, people that are on the verge of losing their jobs or homes or marriages or perhaps just suffered the loss of a child, spouse or parent..if I could have anything, I would want my Dad back for 5 minutes of conversation or my baby back to hold for 5 minutes..those are the things that I would want..

So, during this busy, hectic Holiday season..remember what's important..what you do have..not the Tory Burch purse that you think is pretty...